Women's Dual Role - Working and Homemaker !!

"My husband and I both work. My husband would tell you that he does his fair share of the housework, but if pressed, he will admit that he’s never cleaned the bathroom, that I do the dishes nine times out of ten, and that he barely knows how the washer and dryer work in the apartment we've lived in for over eight months. Sure, he changes the light bulbs and assembles the furniture, but he’s never scrubbed a toilet in the years we've lived together". Does this sound familiar?

Isn't it amazing that in the 21st century, when women smash through glass ceilings, they still feel obliged, shortly after, to clean up after themselves? We should celebrate being women and having the opportunities to do things that our mothers and grandmothers were not allowed to do. They were expected to stay at home and do the cooking and the cleaning. Though now, of course, we are expected to do the cooking and the cleaning and the working.


Even as women are becoming a bigger and bigger part of the workforce — women are primary or sole breadwinners in four out of ten households — new data shows they’re still shouldering far more household responsibilities than men.It also found that men spend more time on in leisure activities like watching TV and exercising than women do. Women are also more likely to do laundry and cook dinner.
The key difference between “male breadwinner” and “female breadwinner” households was that women tend to work fewer hours than men in “male breadwinner” households (in particular, they often work part-time), whereas men tend to work as many hours as their partner (or even more hours) in “female breadwinner” households.

But when it comes to housework, labor is still shared unevenly. The data found women completed about 16 hours of housework a week, more than double the amount performed by men. They also spent more time caring for children, running domestic errands and babysitting. Even when women make more money, men still leave the majority of housework to them.


Here are some interesting highlights -
1) 2/3rd of Indian women feel inequality exists at home between men and women.
2) 76% of men feel that laundry is a women's job
3) 85% of working Indian women feel that they have two jobs - one at work and another at home.
4) 73% of married Indian women feel that a man prioritizes relaxing over helping with household chores.
5) More than 2/3rds of the Indian men prefer to watch TV than do laundry
6) 77% of the Indian men depend on the women for doing the laundry.

College-educated, middle-class men are changing, she added, and many of them now see equal participation in housework as part of their responsibility as a partner. But she said working-class men, who tend to have more traditional attitudes about gender roles, have yet to follow suit.

Some ways that women can help themselves and make men help them in the household chores -
1) At a high level, a reason why a lot of men don’t want to clean is obvious: it’s not fun. The rewards of the other two traditionally female household tasks—childcare and cooking—are palpable. Your kid’s smile, a delicious meal. But not so with cleaning. So try to make the activity fun.
2) Women need to let go of feeling guilty. They need to realize that men also need to share the household load with them and must let go of feeling guilty of seeing their men wash the dishes or do the laundry.
3) Try to have a healthy conversation with the men on how much they would like if he would join them in sharing the household work. Initially, they may not join you but you need to create an urgency and train them to do the work. Doing them repeatedly would help them change their mindset and help you in the long run.
4) Ladies - let go of the perfection. When some of the few men who come on their own to help the ladies, try to cooperate with them and do not set high expectations and expect them to be a perfectionist. Try to see the good thing that you are delegating the work and getting an additional hand.

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